The Role of a Husband and Daddy
· In accordance with the Scriptures, I understand that my role is to be the servant leader of our family. This responsibility requires me to lead, protect, and provide for my wife and children and to lay my life down for their benefit. (John 13:1-20, John 10:11, 1 Timothy 5:8, 1 John 3:16)
· The Gospel of Jesus Christ is the primary focus of our family and home. (Acts 2:38)
· I will emulate a diligent pursuit of Christ through Bible study, prayer, and service. I will make intentional efforts to grow spiritually by the grace of God for His glory. (Philippians 3:8-11, James 4:8)
· I will strive to be an example of Christ at all times. (1 Corinthians 11:1)
· I will seek to honor God, be faithful to His church, obey His Word, and do His will. (1 Corinthians 6:20)
· I will lead our family spiritually by acting as the priest, prophet, and king of our home. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
· I will be faithful to my wife, to love and honor her, and to lay down my life for her as Jesus Christ did for me. (Ephesians 5:25, 1 Peter 3:7, 1 John 3:16)
· I will encourage personal maturity, spiritual strength and security in my wife. (Ephesians 5:26)
· As the primary disciplers of our children, my wife and I will bless our children and teach them to love God with all of their hearts, all of their minds, and all of their strength. We will be intentional to share the Gospel of Jesus Christ with them daily. (Matthew 22:37-39, Psalm 78, Deuteronomy 6:4-9)
· In partnership with my wife, we will raise our children in the discipline and instruction of Lord with the understanding that when both parents are present, I will assume the role of primary discipliner. I will also make sure to give our children more than enough time, affection, and attention in order to communicate the true nature of our Heavenly Father. (Proverbs 22:6, Proverbs 29:17, Proverbs 23:13-14)
· I will make intentional efforts to nurture my relationship with my wife and children in order to make them feel loved, valued, and significant. (Philippians 2:3-4)
· I will pray over, with, and for every member of our family every day.
· I will initiate and establish spiritual discussions, devotions, prayer times, and service opportunities.
· I will encourage my family towards Christ-likeness.
· I will seek the Lord's Will in any decision where my wife and I are not in agreement before making the final decision. (Proverbs 3:5-6)
· I will listen when others point out sin in my life, confess and repent of my sins, learn from my mistakes, and walk with integrity as a man answerable to God. (1 John 1:9, James 5:16)
· I will take initiative when relationships are suffering with the goal of reconciliation and forgiveness.
· I will set others up to win and mobilize them by learning their strengths and gifts.
· I understand the impact of my words and I will speak words of life to my wife, my children, and everyone around me. (Proverbs 18:21)
· I will be totally committed to ministry and will redeem my time for Christ. This includes being intentional about the discipleship of young men. (Matthew 28:18-20)
· The Bible is my ultimate authority. (2 Timothy 3:16, Hebrews 4:12, 2 Peter 1:21)
· I will courageously work with the strength God provides to fulfill this resolution for the rest of my life and for His glory. (Philippians 4:13)
The Role of Wife and Mommy
· In accordance with the Scriptures, I understand that my role as the helper requires me to be homeward focused, understanding the countless opportunities of service and witness that will strengthen the faith of the family and advance the cause of Christ. (Genesis 2:18, Proverbs 31:10-31, Titus 2:3-8)
· The Gospel of Jesus Christ is the primary focus of our family and home. (Acts 2:38)
· I will seek to honor God, be faithful to His church, obey His Word, and do His will. (1 Corinthians 6:20)
· I will pursue Christ-likeness through Bible study, prayer, and service. I will make intentional efforts to grow spiritually by the grace of God for His glory. (Philippians 3:8-11, James 4:8)
· I will gladly submit to the loving, servant leadership of my husband. I will encourage, help, and support him as the God-appointed head so that he might be all he can be for God's Kingdom and our family. (Ephesians 5:22-24, Proverbs 31:11-12)
· I will be faithful to my husband, to respect and honor him, and to serve him all of my days. (Ephesians 5:33)
· As the primary disciplers of our children, my husband and I will bless our children and teach them to love God with all of their hearts, all of their minds, and all of their strength. We will be intentional to share the Gospel of Jesus Christ with them daily. (Matthew 22:37-39, Psalm 78, Deuteronomy 6:4-9)
· In partnership with my husband, we will raise up children in the discipline and instruction of the Lord - sharing with my husband the teaching and discipline they need, and giving them the special attachment they crave from me, as well as that special nurturing touch and care that I alone am capable of giving. (Proverbs 22:6, Proverbs 29:17, Proverbs 23:13-14)
· I will make intentional efforts to nurture my relationship with my husband and children in order to make them feel loved, valued and significant. (Philippians 2:3-4)
· I will set others up to win and mobilize them by learning their strengths and gifts.
· I will encourage my husband and our children toward Christ-likeness.
· I understand the impact of my words and I will speak words of life to my husband, my children, and everyone around me. (Proverbs 18:21)
· I will strive to maintain a consistent gentle and quiet spirit. (1 Peter 3:4)
· I will listen when others point out sin in my life, confess and repent of my sins, learn from my mistakes, and walk with integrity as a woman answerable to God. (1 John 1:9, James 5:16)
· I will be totally committed to ministry and will redeem my time for Christ and His Kingdom. This includes being intentional about the discipleship of young women. (Matthew 28:18-20, Titus 2:4)
· I will be a woman of prayer so that the Word of God will be opened to me and so that the power of faith and holiness will descend upon me; that my spiritual influence may increase at home, at church and in the world.
· The Bible is my ultimate authority. (2 Timothy 3:16, Hebrews 4:12, 2 Peter 1:21)
· I will diligently work with the strength God provides to fulfill this resolution for the rest of my life and for His glory. (Philippians 4:13)
The Role of Children
· Obedience – I will strive to be obedient to God’s Word, my parents and all others who are in authority over me. I know that delayed obedience is disobedience and I will obey the first time. Also, I understand that willful disobedience will result in discipline. (Colossians 3:20)
· Respect – I will respect all people, especially my parents. I will make intentional efforts to respect them both privately and publicly. I know that with the honoring of my parents will come great blessings for me. (Ephesians 6:1-4)
· Honesty – I will be honest in all situations regardless of perceived consequences. I will keep my promises and commitments and be a young man/young woman of my word. I will tell the whole truth and strive to live with integrity. (Proverbs 11:3)
· Responsibility – I understand that responsibility is part of maturity and growing up and I will view it as a positive thing. I will take responsibility for myself and do what is asked of me. (1 Timothy 4:12)
· Positive Attitude – I understand that the condition of my heart is more important than my actions. I will consistently check my attitude and the posture of my heart because that is best for me. If my heart is not in the right place, I will tell my parents. (Proverbs 4:23)
