For example, so many people will get memberships to the YMCA or PEAK Fitness and say, "I am going to work-out everyday and really get healthy in 2009!" It's great to want to be healthy and in shape, but the problem comes when they miss one day of working out and then say to themselves, "Well, I have already missed one day, so it's not big deal if I miss another one... and another one... and another one..." Pretty soon, it isn't even February and they forget about working out altogether and by March, they cancel their membership because they don't want to pay for something they don't use... Or how about this one.. "In 2009 I am going to start going to church." Well, that is a great thing to do, but the problem comes when someone oversleeps one time and they feel like a failure for missing church. Then they don't want to go back the next week... or the next week... etc.
Now... lean in close to your computer screen and read this very carefully... I think we should stop making so many resolutions and set more goals! That's right... if we understood the difference between setting a goal and making a resolution, we would be so much more successful and satisfied. Let's face it... Resolutions are really hard to keep because we feel like once we mess up once, the whole thing is worthless. We think we have failed and there is no point in trying anymore. However, that is not the case with goals. Check this out... if someone makes a resolution that in 2009, they are going to work out 5 times a week and then they don't accomplish that, they feel like a failure. Once you feel like a failure, there is not a whole lot of motivation to keep that resolution because if you keep trying, you are just going to fail again. Here is the difference... instead of making a resolution to work out 5 times a week, why not set a goal to lose 20 lbs in 2009, or to be able to bench press 200 lbs by the end of the year. See, if my goal is to lose 20 lbs or to increase my bench press by 50 lbs in 2009, even if I don't work out one day, I still feel like I can accomplish my goal. I am still motivated. I don't feel like a failure. It is a different way of looking at life that will keep us feeling motivated to do the positive things we want to do... it's a different mindset.
I love this time of year for a lot of reasons but a big reason is because it gives me the chance to look back on the past year and then set goals for the new year. I am really big on goals. Ask anyone on the eMerge staff, ask Bethany, ask anyone... I am always setting goals and trying to achieve them. I think goals are so important because in life you need to have vision and a plan for where you want to go. If you don't have any goals, you will be happy with whatever happens. You will train yourself to be very content with mediocrity. I choose not to be mediocre in any part of my life and I will always push myself to be all that God created me to be.
Here is what I want to do today... I want to share with you how to set goals in your life that you will be able to accomplish in 2009. This is something I hope you will carry with you for a long time. Then, I want to share with you some of my goals for 2009 and how I will accomplish them.
How To Set Goals: A Six-Step Process...
1. Consider your priorities in life... ask yourself these questions: What am I responsible for? What is important to me? What areas to I need to improve in? What do I not like about myself?
2. Set a Goal... this is when you put down on paper the goal that you want to accomplish in 2009. In 2009, I want to ______________________________.
3. Explain how you will accomplish your goal... this is where you map out a plan of how to accomplish your goal. What are the steps that you want to take... Write them down.
4. What will you need to eliminate from your life in order to accomplish this goal in 2009? In my opinion, this is the most important step in the process, but this is the step that almost NOBODY thinks about. Eliminating the bad from your life is just as important as adding the good.
5. Find someone who will keep you accountable for your goals. We all need accountability in life. Find someone that cares about you and wants you to succeed.
6. Keep your Goals visible at all times. This will help remind you of the things you are trying to accomplish.
With all that being said, let me share with you some of my goals for 2009 and how they play out. ***I will not have any eMerge goals on here because these are my personal goals for 2009. I have a set of goals for eMerge that is separate.
Goal #1 - Grow in my relationship with the Lord.
- How will I do this? Set aside intentional time daily for God, pray more, pray for other people more, read the entire Bible, serve more, encourage more, laugh more, seek out friendships with non-Christians and invite them to church, be more patient
- What will I have to eliminate to accomplish this goal? Sleeping in, laziness, other things getting my attention, criticizing others.
- Accountability: Brandon Berry (College Roommate)
Goal #2 - Be a great husband to Bethany
- How will I do this? Pray with her, pray for her, make her laugh, listen to her, keep our Thursday date night fun and sacred, seek to understand her, be patient, encourage her, help her overcome fears, love her unconditionally, compliment her, celebrate little wins,
- What will I have to eliminate to accomplish this goal? Pride, Hurtful words, working too much, getting frustrated.
- Accountability: Danny Marshall (College Roommate)
Goal #3 - Go to the Grand Canyon
- How will I do this? Research hotel prices, plane ticket prices, pick a date on the calendar, GO!
- What will I have to eliminate to accomplish this goal? the mentality that I don't have time to do fun things like this.
- Accountability: Bethany
Goal #4 - Complete 8 classes toward my Seminary Degree
- How will I do this? Stay disciplined, keep a good work-school balance, set aside time daily to study, study ahead
- What will I have to eliminate to accomplish this goal? Procrastination, laziness, TV,
- Accountability: Todd Lesher
Goal #5 - Stay Healthy
- How will I do this? Exercise often, eat right, take vitamins (I live by these things!), get enough rest
- What will I have to eliminate to accomplish this goal? Long stretches of time without working out, desserts and butter (I am starting a month long fast on both of these things starting January 1st)
- Accountability: Brad Cooper (College Roommate)
Well, there you have it... those are some of my goals for 2009. Sorry this post was a little long, but I think it was important. What are your goals for 2009? Make a comment and let everyone know...